Vulva, Labia, Clitoris and Vagina

I’ve spent the past four years studying human sexuality, ever since my own sex drive “woke up” after going off of the drugs I was on. This has led me in several different directions about sex, but the two issues I found over and over again was about labias and about pubic hair.

I know from my own childhood and teen years, girls that I knew were always cautioned to never let anyone touch you “down there” or to even touch yourself. Forget about actually looking at your own vulva and labia. I was taught that women’s vaginas were dirty, yucky things and men only wanted to have sex because “they couldn’t control themselves”. But of course, women were never suppose to enjoy it.

Because of this, I had never really looked at myself. Until two years ago. And those ingrained teachings die hard. I did get a mirror and took a look at my own vulva and labia and even took a picture of it. Like everything else, the fear of what I had learned was holding me back in so many ways. At first I thought I had the uglies, most mis-shaped vulva in the world… it was crooked, oddly colored, and just plain weird.

In my research on my different sites and groups I constantly read about people complaining about women’s vaginas… men because they didn’t look like the ones in porn and women because theirs didn’t look like the ones in porn. There women need to be neat and tidy (like it says in this video: Labiaplasty ) and cleanly shaved or waxed.

Ironically it was on a porn site that read something that made me feel a whole lot better. That all vaginas, vulvas and labia are beautiful.. that they all come in different sizes, shapes and colors, just like people do. There is no one perfect way to look. It also went on to dispel the myth that I had always heard.. about it being dirty and smelling and you needed to clean regularly (douching, etc). Vaginas are self cleaning and you are suppose to smell like a woman and not a flower garden.

After that I looked at myself with a whole new respect. I bothers me that women and girls are still taught these outdated ideas about sex and female body.

Even more recently, I was prompted by a Dom that has come into my life to take pictures for him, as well as me. I was amazed and thrilled at how clear these pictures came out… For the first time I could actually see my own clitoris. Learning about my clit was a new subject for me. Of course, in my lack of sex education, it was never mentioned. Even in the early years of my sex life most men didn’t know about it. Some only know that if you rub a woman “there” she gets excited. It wasn’t until I started learning about BDSM and meeting Dominants and submissives that I learned what they knew… that the clitoris is the center of a woman’s sexuality, and it’s the only organ in the human body created for just one thing… sexual pleasure. Wow!!

 

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