There was a discussion recently on a forum about Online/Long Distance Relationships and if they can ever become an in-real life “forever” relationship. I know there are some that do.. I follow several blogs of D/s that started out as online LDR’s that evolved into marriage and basically living ‘happily ever after’. But most do not, for various reasons.
These are my thoughts and feelings about this discussion.
Nothing is forever. I don’t think anyone can ever decide that for someone else. We each have to think about in terms of what we really want.
Do you want that happily ever after fairy tale?
Do you want to live up to society’s expectations?
Do want and need a partner to have children?
Are you in love with your LDR partner?
Are you just lonely?
Are you afraid of being alone?
Is it doable? Sure.. anything is.
Is it healthy? That depends on the attitudes and expectations of both partners.
Is it realistic? As realistic as anything else.. it all depends how much effort you are willing to put into it and what you are expecting to get out of it.
If you are going into a LDR expecting it to end in happily ever after, chances are you are going to be disappointed.
If you go into it because you are bored, you could end up hurting each other and that might not be healthy.
If you accept the relationship, and it’s limitations, for what it is, it can work and has for quite a few people whom I’ve talked to. But they do understand and accept the limitations the relationship and they don’t try to force it to be more than it is.
While there are people who have a LDR become a real time face to face physical relationship, and eventually marriage, I’m not sure that’s the norm.
Relationships all by themselves is a struggle and a lot of work, even in the best of circumstances. It takes a whole lot of communication to make it work, and online is even more so. But I personally think it can work, if entered in correctly.