Tack Bra

I first learned about tack bras from a blog called Under His Hand. Sadly, due to a family tragedy, her blog no longer exists.

But these pictures are from her blog and have been reproduced on various sites and included these directions on to make a tack bra:

“Cut 4 bra cup sized circles from leather. Push tacks through one piece of leather. Once you have them through, use glue/tape other piece of leather over the backs of the tacks so they cannot be pushed back. This will form nice padding and looks like this:”


There are many ways of making a tack bra, from using an old bra or two old bras to using a circle of leather, to my idea of disposable tack cups that either can inserted in a normal bra or just taped to your tits…

Mine are made with circles of sandpaper, tacks pushed through and then clear packing tape over the top to ensure the tacks stay put. Easy and cheap and can be tossed when needed.

I’ve also seen people use two bras, one slightly bigger than the other, the tacks put in the smaller bra and then inserted inside of the larger bra and sewn together. I admit that looks better. I’ve seen others who use the same method I did but used duct tape for the base instead of sandpaper.

Another site suggested gluing in the tacks on the bra and that’s what I tried for my first one. I learned the hard way  to make sure the tacks are rust proof because the water in most Elmer’s type glues will rust the tacks and I didn’t think that was very safe.

A lot of people are afraid of tack bras because they think they will draw blood from the tacks piercing the skin. But I’ve been wearing them for 4 years and I’ve never had that happen. I do get lots of wonderful red dots from the points, but not blood. I love the feeling of wearing these… and I didn’t think I would when I first saw them. It took me a while to warm up the idea but once I saw them I could get them out of my head and knew I had to try them. I’m so glad that I did.



Nipple Clamps

I have a love-hate relationship with nipple clamps. I love them, until they are clamped onto my nipples and then I hate them, even while they are making me very horny and wet, and after they are removed, I want them back on.

I first learned about nipple clamps 30 years ago while watching a porn film of a woman whose wrists were cuffed behind her, she was nude, being spanked by a Domme who then put clothespins on the sub’s nipples. I was fascinated and never forgot that scene. It’s probably not ironic that the three things I enjoy the most are being cuffed, spanked and clamped, and of course, while nude.

But I never got the chance to actually try them until I agreed to be a friend’s submissive four years ago. The first thing he used on me was wooden clothespins. Since then I’ve collected quite a collection of different things to torture my tits with, including four sets of metal nipple clamps. There are so many others I want to add to my collection.

The pictures below are all my nipples except for the one in the center. I only wish that was me.

I’ve also collected a lot of ideas that can be used to torture tender nipples. I haven’t tried all of these.. some I’ve tried and I won’t use again. Many are in my toy box right now.

Binder clips

Tacks on duct tape (one of my favorites)

Chopsticks and rubber bands (love these too)

Snake bite kits (you’ll need two)

Mousetraps (this was a no for me)


Wolfcraft 3628470 Suction Spring Clamp 3/4″… clamps are intense and they have suction cups to attach to a wall or window, mirror… I got mine from Amazon and I’ve only used them once.


Rubber tip forceps

Nipple tree

Sandpaper taped over nipples (this I use a lot, they can also be taped to the inside of a tee shirt so your nipples rub against the sandpaper as you move around)

Hot wax

Bend beer bottle caps to clamp on your nipples

Small plastic hair clips – the ones with the interlocking little fingers..these are tiny, and at first they don’t feel like much, but the longer they stay on…. they are also great on labia.

If you have nipple clamps that are chained together AND a ball gag, wrap the chain round the ball gag before inserting that in mouth… make sure the chain is tight. Every time you move your head it pulls on the clamps

Pour raw rice onto the sticky side of duct tape and press it in and tape to nipples.

Alligator clips

Scatter some tacks on the floor and do push ups so that your nipples picks up the tacks.

Use one ice cube on one nipple and hot wax on the other. After a minute, switch.

Use more than one thing at a time.. like two pair of nipple clamps and cover with clear packing tape or duct tape, even better with the tacks inside.

Wear clamps or clothespins while exercising.. really good when doing jumping jacks.

Spank nipples with a flexible metal ruler

Clover clamps (these are on my to-buy list)

Put five clothespins on each nipple (four around, one in the center). Every minute, you must add a weight

Brush your nipples with an electric toothbrush… be sure to add toothpaste (gets cold and then hot)

Use a Wartenberg Pinwheel around and on nipples

Put clothespins on each nipple, put yourself on all fours, then attach some weight to the clothespins, crawl around on your hands and knees

If you have any other ideas to add to my collection, please let me know.

Comfort Zone

I remember when I was asked if I wanted to try out BDSM and especially D/s.. I could “try out” being a submissive and if it wasn’t for me, well, no strings attached.

My first response was an immediate.. “no way”, something I fortunately didn’t verbalize. While I loved reading about Doms and subs and had over a dozen novels based on the topic, I was terrified about the idea of actually trying it out. That was way outside of my comfort zone.

But I felt comfortable with the friend who suggested it and I felt I could trust him, something he has never betrayed, so I took a leap of faith and said yes.

I’ve never regretted it.



What most of the vanilla world doesn’t understand about Kink. Or porn. Or sex in general. They tend to take things in face value without bothering to learn the background about the things they don’t understand.

Most of my vanilla friends, especially women, see sex as a chore… something they have to do to keep their husbands at home and to have children. But always missionary only, under the covers, in the dark. Nudity is frowned on, other than bathing. The naked body is pornography no matter if it’s Playboy or Hustler. Kink is violence against women. Rape is an acceptable form of sex for men (“because that’s how the poor darlings are wired, dear.”) And all sex workers are whores with no self worth.

And they are sadly wrong on all of this.